I truly believe that the feelings we are experiencing now and our feelings of the past are valid and deserve to be heard. Feelings are also true to life and accurate as a direct function of underlying perceptions, thoughts & beliefs matching reality and “What Is ”.
Those feelings also deserve to be listened to by someone who is caring and understanding. Unfortunately, some of us have been made to feel small and inadequate for the way we feel and even smaller for verbalizing them. Not all feelings are created equal, you might say. While all feelings are authentically and validly relaying what is occurring in your body as feedback from your inner and outer environments, anyone contradicting what you are feeling as not what you are feeling is speaking of what he or she does not know and further can place you in some serious jeopardy of being “played”, manipulated and misused if you go along for this unhealthy, “crazy-making” ride. Whether you realize it or not, being made to feel as if your feelings aren’t valid is a form of “ EMOTIONAL ABUSE” So many of us are in relationships and around people who don’t support or try to understand our feelings, leaving us with a sense of emptiness, and loneliness. We are all struggling with this in our own way, whether it’s at work, school, or home, just know we deserve to be heard, we deserve to get help, we deserve to have supporting and understanding people around us that help put our situation in perspective. I hope that no matter what people have told you in the past, whether that was to “suck it up” “get over it”, “that is stupid that you feel that way” or something worse, that today you hear me when I say that your feelings are valid and deserve to be heard. Surround yourself with love and validation from yourself and from others, and the rest will follow.
-Tannis Richardson
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