People come and go into our lives constantly and I believe that all of them impact us, in some way or another, whether we realize it or not. We are shaped by our experiences, interactions, and the relationships we form. I just wish someone had told me that getting older and growing up meant that I’d grow apart from some of the partners/friends I thought I’d have forever. REALITY CHECK, Relationships change. Whether it’s due to our interests that pull us in different directions, we grow busy with our personal lives, our natural affinities for one another fade, or because we grow as individuals. Whatever the case may be ,life has a weird way of weaving us in and out of each other's worlds.
You see, solid relationships require a sense of balance built on even ground. If that foundation seems to be cracked or shifting, then it just may be time to move on.
In fact, it can be healthy to let go of relationships/friendships that are harmful or no longer serve you purpose.
Moving on from these relationships can be difficult to come to terms with; it feels like you've been betrayed, your trust has been broken, years of your time /life wasted, and for many this evolution might even feel like death. Here you are having to let go of what was and now must learn to accept what it is.
We have to remember that we meet people in different phases of life and one thing we know about life is always changing. We grow as people and we have to acknowledge that. Not every relationship/friendship is supposed to go through till the end of time.
Whatever you do “DO NOT GUILT YOURSELF or PLAY THE BLAME GAME”. Instead self examination is key. What role did you play in the crack of that relationship foundation?What did you learn? What were your gains/losses?All tools that you can use to reflect upon and improve who you are as a friend/ partner in the future.
At the end of the day just try to think of the evolution of your relationships/ friendships as learning experiences.
-Tannis Richardson
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